Break Up Advice - 8 Steps to Mend Your Break Up
Was the breakup an accident? Or you had it coming all along?
If the relationship was not meant to be then you should let it go. However
if you feel you two are meant for each other then by all means try to get
your ex back. Here are 8 steps for you to follow.
1 – Are you able to determine the cause of the
breakup? What you think must be the cause may not be at all. Most times
emotions run high and the parties concerned are not able to think clearly.
Chances are that you are in this state now. The thing to do is allow
yourself to cool down.
2 – I know you are anxious to get your ex back;
but on no account should you harass your ex. The instinctive reaction is
to try to claw your way back, don't do it. No begging, pleading or
anything of the sort. Your ex is probably anxious too, allow your ex to
cool down also. For now keep communications to a minimum, strictly no
contact for the first week.
3 – The next week may be send an email if you feel
it is appropriate, otherwise keep quiet for a little while longer. The
email is the least personal. Then text massages and MSN or equivalent.
Phone calls are the most personal. Don’t call until all signs are
favorable. In your email just ask how are you doing and that kind of
stuff.
4 – Do not go out with another person of the
opposite sex. This does not sent a good signal, in spite of what you may
have read regarding making your ex jealous. Adolescent games play no part
in a serious relationship. Your ex may just think you have move on, or
your ex may even get angrier. Your relationship is bad
enough as it is; don’t jeopardize it.
5 – After enough time had elapsed, you may want to
meet your ex “by accident”. Go to the places where your ex frequents, more
then likely you two will meet. Act surprised, and make small talk, nothing
serious. This is not time to go over your differences. Promise to send
your ex an email or text before you leave.
6 – Try to get a date, by email or text or instant
messages. Try not to be nervous. Do have a good time; this shouldn’t be
hard. Don’t discuss anything. You still don’t know what are the causes for
the breakup. You should not try to get your ex back until you have a good
plan in place.
7 – Keep doing this a few more times. Be relaxed;
try to re ignite the spark by recalling the fun things from the past when
you two were having the best times. Indeed there is a technique whereby
you can do an instant reconnect. This is what a relationship is all about
– having fun together.
8 – Now is the time find out what caused the
breakup, what kind of mistakes you have made all along the relationship.
If you can determine the mistakes, can you correct them? Can you see your
way out of the mess that you are in? Well, probably not. If you think this
is too much to handle be not concerned – TW Jackson had devised
a system whereby he can assist you from break up to reunion in simple
steps. This system is step by step and easy to follow. No matter how bad
your situation is this system may help you. You might get your ex back! CLICK HERE to check it out.
To your relationship success!
